North Country Spouses' Club

Ft. Drum Gold Star and Surviving families, the North Country Spouses Club has asked for your Recipe submissions for their Cookbook as part of a fundraising effort for welfare and scholarships. They would like to have a section devoted specifically to our Gold Star Families. I think this is a wonderful idea so I have attached their flyer and letter with the submission information. Have fun with it. ~Tom

Gold Star Mothers Day event to be held on 18 September

In recognition of Gold Star Mothers Day, Fort Drum invites all Surviving Families to join us in
this Fort Drum Rocks event on 18 September 2014.  Free Fun 4 Everyone.
 

*** SNOWBALL EXPRESS REGISTRATION IS OPEN ***

https://signup.snowballexpress.org/Account/FamilySignup

Brad Paisley at the Great NY State Fair *Free*

Brad Paisley will kick off the Grandstand concert series at the Great New York State Fair as he brings his High Energy Summer Tour to the Fairgrounds on opening night Thursday, August 21. Tickets to the 7:30 p.m. show.

Free tickets for the Concert and fair are available through SOS Office for Surviving Family Members. Please call 315-772-6357 to request tickets.

http://www.nysfair.org/concerts/events/brad-paisley-with-randy-houser-leah-turner-charlie-worsham

Over the Rainbow Camp 2014

July 31, 2014

Dear Parent/Grandparent/Guardian:

We are very excited about our upcoming “Over the Rainbow” one day children’s camp and the possibility of your child attending. The day camp is for children 6 to 12 years of age who have experienced the loss of someone close to them. We will be working with your child on different coping techniques which they can use to help them with grief and loss. We encourage you to discuss with your child what they have learned and practice the coping skills with them. The camp will begin at 10:00 AM and run until 3:00 PM on 18 August, 2014. This year the camp will be held at the New York State Zoo at Thompson Park in Watertown. If you have any questions please feel free to contact me.

 

PLEASE COMPLETE AND RETURN THE ENCLOSED FORM BY AUGUST 13, 2014!

 

Thank you!

Thomas Powlin, LMSW

Director of Social Work and Bereavement Services

(315) 788-7323

 

Thomas Clegg, MAEd, Support Coordinator

Ft. Drum Survivor Outreach Services

(315) 772-6357

 

Marrying a Widow

This was such an awesome blog post that I had to ask the blogger to allow me to reblog it on our newsletter.  Great info to share with all.

 

 

Marrying A Widow  (Reblogged with permission from 1fw blog )

 

Today, my fiancé Keith told me he wrote something that he wanted me to share here on One Fit Widow. What you read below was written by Keith with the intention of helping others understand the viewpoint of being in a relationship with a widow from a chapter 2′s perspective.

Marrying a Widow – The Other Man

In two days I will be marrying my beautiful fiancée, Michelle. She will become my wife, but I am not so sure I will be the only man she thinks about for the rest of her life. In fact, I am pretty sure she will also be thinking about, remembering, and honoring another guy – because she is a widow. When we first met three years ago I had no idea she was widowed. I just knew that Michelle was this beautiful, caring, brilliant, sexy person whom I had so much in common with. We talked about traveling, hiking; our kids, living healthy, being adventurous, and so much more, all of which made me fall in love with her from our first date on. I learned that she was a widow and had lost her husband in a small plane crash. I too had lost my best friend in a plane crash, which was yet another thing we had in common, albeit not a good thing. I had not spent much time around widows or for that matter ever dated a widow, but I was willing to try. I learned about the term “chapter 2”, which refers to a second chapter in the life of a widowed or divorced person. In a way, Michelle had become my chapter 2 as well because I am divorced which comes with its own set of “baggage”.

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I really didn’t understand how to act or what to say in the beginning of our relationship. I would hold my words or chose them carefully in hopes of not opening up a “wound” or seeming insensitive. Time and experience have allowed me to get better about speaking my heart but I’m still learning and will continue to do so for the rest of our lives. Our relationship was very fragile in the beginning; we were experiencing all of these firsts that all couples go through, first date, first hike, first dinner, first kiss and so much more that were bittersweet. For “us” they were incredible exciting, but for her (I can only guess), they were those things as well but also sad and heart wrenching. She never thought she would be experiencing these “firsts” again, especially with someone other than her husband, the man she married years ago. Meeting her kids was exciting for me, but for her – I was not her husband or more importantly their father. I was not the one who was there at their birth or heard their first words. Something else I thought I would never say or even thought about doing was meeting my girlfriends in laws. That is not something that happens a lot. That had to be one of the toughest things I have done in this relationship. Without a doubt (I can only guess), one of the toughest and most awkward things Michelle has ever had to do as well. I was meeting these two wonderful people and basically standing in the place that their son would have stood in had he not have died so tragically. Becoming their daughter in-laws new “man” and being their grandkids new “daddy” were things I could never even imagine comprehending from their viewpoint. I would see pictures of the “whole” family and hear stories of fun times, which has, and will continue to be full of mixed emotions from me. I wasn’t in those pictures, it was another man, I wasn’t in those stories, it was another man. On one hand I wanted to be this strong confident guy who wouldn’t let the “baggage” of widowhood bother me and on the other hand I felt out of place and just wanted to start fresh and create our own “baggage”. It was a complicated process that has taken some time to maneuver.

I have learned and grown a lot over these past few years being in a relationship as a chapter 2. I have learned widows do not move on, they move forward. I have learned widows grieve at different levels and move forward within there own time frames. If you are a chapter 2, don’t hurry the relationship too fast; it will progress at its own speed. I have learned to not always try and fix things because a lot of the emotions are not directed towards or caused by me. A lot of times I have no control over how she is feeling, so I let her and the kids have their space and just hold them so they feel secure and safe. I have learned to be the best “daddy on earth” I can be and to understand there will always be a need for the kids and Michelle to talk about their dad, especially his characteristics, his funny stories, his memories. I have learned it is alright, and pretty amazing to have two sets of “in-laws” who are understanding to my position in their daughter/daughter in-laws life, and have accepted me by continuing to make me feel welcome. I have learned widows feel deeper emotions and live fuller lives everyday and for this I am very thankful and continue to embrace.
If you are a chapter 2 who is not quite sure about the relationship you are in – stick with it and be honest and understanding to them. You will enjoy life and love at a whole new level!
Keith

Super Signup in September

It's a Zoo at the Library

Golf opportunity for Soldiers and Survivors

Camp Opportunity

Kamp Kiwanis has 25 Direct/Agency Sponsored Kamper applications for Kamp Kiwanis 2014 (July 27 – Aug 2 session only).  This means there is NO CHARGE for children with these special applications to attend this camp for the session indicated.  Kamp Kiwanis is located in the Adirondack Mountains about an 80 minute drive from Fort Drum.  Parents will be responsible for drop off and pick up of their children.  Individuals must contact me by COB today to take advantage of this opportunity.  Please email this information out to your contacts/distro lists immediately.

 

Kamp Kiwanis

July 27 – Aug 2, 2014

 

Child must have had a physical within the last 12 months.

Copy of health insurance card is needed. 

 

Please call Amy Kilionski at (315)772-6799 by close of business today, Tuesday, 22 July 2014.

Riverfest & Mountainfest

Memorial Day 2014

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Spaghetti Dinner Benefit.

*****SCAM ALERT*****

I just received a message from one of our Survivors about a SCAM targeting Gold Star Families. Someone is calling from the following number, 202-666-2294, stating that they are calling from the "Casualty Office of the Government in Washington DC". They are telling Survivors that they are eligible for an $8,400 grant that can be used for any purpose. When asked, they will not provide a government id or call back number. They are trying to convince Survivors to give them their checking/savings account information. DO NOT provide any personal information to unsolicited callers!

2014 Military Teen Camp

Attached is the flyer for Camp Wabasso for this year.  There are 100 spots sponsored for military kids with first priority going to Surviving children and Wounded Service Members children. They are on first come first save slots.  You will need to secure the spot with $25 pre-registration fee. This is a great deal for overnight camp! Camp Wabasso is a beautiful and fun camp run by Cornell Cooperative Extension below is the link for additional information.

 

http://www.ccejefferson.org/index.php/4-h-camp-wabasso/

Below is direct contact information for our Cornell office to register.

 

Cornell Cooperative Extension of Jefferson County

 

203 North Hamilton Street

 

Watertown, NY 13601

 

315-788-8450 ext. 238

Army Emergency Relief Scholarships

 
http://www.aerhq.org/dnn563/Scholarships.aspx

February Retiree Breakfast

February Teen activities at the Youth Center